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Issue No. 96 |
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In this issue:
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Thoughts for
Leaders “Can a Coach Help You Boost Your Performance?” There are a variety of reasons that companies hire me as a coach, with three scenarios being the most common. First, I help prepare high potential employees for a significant promotion. Second, I work with good performers who want help in specific areas to do their jobs better. I also work with individuals who have already been promoted but who are facing challenges with the transition. The third scenario is less common because a coach is typically brought in to make someone better, not to work with someone who is having difficulties. Coaching tends to be more effective when the person is already doing a good job but wants to achieve even more. An example of the second scenario , a solid performer who wants to do her job better, is Mary - a high potential executive who had trouble delegating. She was spending too much time on tasks that should have been handled by others, preventing her from focusing on more strategic issues.In one of our first meetings, we examined her to-do list. We identified items that needed to be handled by others, assigned responsibility for each item and discussed how she would go about delegating the tasks to the appropriate people on her team. The following week we talked about her progress and reviewed the challenges she faced getting others to accept responsibility for the tasks. After about three weeks there were two visible changes. She noticed that she had more time to focus on higher priority items. And, her boss noticed the difference in her effectiveness in working with her team and in getting things done. Two things are needed from the person being coached for coaching to be effective. First, the person needs to be aware of his developmental needs. Second, he must have the desire to change. If the person is resistant to the process, it will not work. There is no formula for executive coaching success as each leader has different needs. But some of the more common issues involve leadership development, communication techniques and interpersonal skills. I help my clients to clearly define their goals, work on their approach to the issues and monitor their progress. Executive coaching can be used to teach managers how to adapt their style when necessary. I use behavior style assessments to help leaders identify their natural styles. Then, we work together to determine when the natural style is a good "fit" and when it is not. Adapting one's style doesn't always come naturally, and working with a coach is an excellent way to practice. Coaching can help anyone improve performance. With a willing leader and a company desire to invest in future talent, coaching can make the difference between an average performance and exceptional achievement.
Featured Article “How to Wow an Audience - Every Time” Martha Burgess, 51, is the cofounder of Theatre Techniques for Business People Inc. The men and women in her classes don't want to become actors. They want to borrow some of acting's best practices so they can inject more energy and flair into their professional lives. It's a worthwhile goal: In an economy of more - more ads, more email, more meetings - the only scarce commodity is attention. If you want to get people's attention, whether during a formal presentation, a casual conversation, or a chance meeting on an airplane, you have to offer a compelling performance. "If you want to be persuasive," argues Martha Burgess, "you have to generate a high level of energy, without all the anxiety. It's energy that makes you visible, that gives you presence. I call it 'performance energy,' and it's the basis of dynamic leadership." "We teach you how to call up the best you for a specific situation," says Burgess. "There is nothing artificial about it. Performance energy is an authentic part of who you are. You just have to access it." To do that, Burgess uses a trigger exercise. First, choose an image, such as a mountain- top or a rising thermometer, as a trigger - your personal stimulus. Then, five times a day for six weeks, physically raise your energy level by, for example, running in place until you're breathing heavily. At that point, stop abruptly, shut your eyes, and focus on your trigger. After six weeks, Burgess promises that this response will be so ingrained that you'll be able to energize yourself by simply focusing on the trigger image. Want to learn more about Burgess's techniques? To read the entire article, click here. “Surprising Health Tips for Women” Although the readership of Leadership Matters includes both men and women, here are some health mistakes more often made by those of us persons of the female gender. Men, feel free to share this information with the important women in your life. “When you have your health, you have everything.” (author unknown) According to the authors of the October 2005 issue of First Draft, smart women might be jeopardizing their health by:
These health tips were adapted from “Six Stupid Health Mistakes” by Amanda Spake and Stacey Schulz, on Prevention.com I’m going to jump on the scale and do a little weight lifting as I held out for a healthy salad, after which I’ll floss my teeth and take a siesta. I’ve already had my yearly check-up with my doctor, and I’m symptom-free, so I’m good to go. However, the most important thing that I’m going to do today is to make a financial contribution to a well known organization on behalf of the victims of hurricane Katrina. I hope you’ll all do the same. By: Jane Storm Featured Top Ten Business Each month I publish one of the "Top Ten Business" lists compiled by Coachville. This month’s topic is “The Top Ten Ways to Make Sure Your Actions Produce More Results”
1. Start with the end in mind. D evelop a clear picture of what you want to accomplish. State the end results in one sentence that even a child can imagine, understand and remember. Consider the power of President Kennedy's goal "to send a man to the moon and bring him safely back home within this decade". Thousands of people did very detailed work and spent billions of dollars based on this simply stated goal.
2. Develop a written plan. 3. Enlist support of others. Let them know what you are doing, and how they and others will benefit from the results you want to produce. Invite them to lend their support however they can.
4. Set up milestones and reporting systems. 5. Have a support system. Set up the supports you need in your work and in your personal life. Have one or more advisors that you meet with regularly to report progress, and get advice and encouragement. Your personal coach can be one of these key people.
6. Monitor progress and make adjustments.
7. Form mutually beneficial alliances with others.
8. Work your plan regularly and continuously.
9. Keep your allies on your side and your enemies at
bay. Share the glory. Recognize and thank the people who have helped you produce results. About the Submitter: Submitted by Ted Isensee, who can be reached at Globecat@aol.com, or visited on the web at http://www.thebusinesscoach.com Copyright 2000, 2001, 2002 by Thomas J. Leonard. May be distributed if full attribution is given and copyright notice is included. Top Ten Personal “The Top 10 Fears That Keep People From Getting What They Want in Life” There are many things that can prevent humans from attaining what they need and want in their life. Probably the biggest obstacle that comes disguised in many "costumes" is fear. Fear can paralyze us, it can prevent us from making decisions, from taking any action, from asking for what we want, and from even realizing what it is that we truly value and need and want in our life. The following are the more common areas where fear shows up. A famous quote which is very helpful to remember when facing fears is, "Fear knocked at the door, and faith answered, and no one was there." 1. Fear of Failing.This has traditionally been one of the things people say they are most afraid of when asked why they did not do something or try something. It is based on *old* ideas that everything we do has to be entirely successful (or even just successful) and that there even *is* such a thing as a real failure! 2. Fear of Success.As with fearing failure, many people are just as afraid of succeeding. To them, success could mean more responsibility, more attention, perhaps more liability, and a continued pressure to *perform* at a high level. Many of us were taught to be prepared for failure and not for success, so we are therefore more afraid of it. 3. Fear of Being Judged.We grew up wanting the approval of our parents and peers. This carries through to adulthood for many, and can create real problems if the fear that others are constantly judging us keeps us from doing what we want or need to do, and from going after our dreams and our goals. Judging others or ourselves is a waste of time and serves no positive purpose. 4. Fear of Emotional Pain.This, like all fears, is one where we can only suffer or allow ourselves to feel *pain* if we give *permission* for it. Life is full of lessons, and within those lessons people make mistakes and errors and experience some kind of *let down.* That let down does *not* have to turn into emotional pain nor suffering unless we give it the green light to do so. 5. Fear of *Embarrassment*Most people do not like the feelings associated with making mistakes publicly, usually because they allow themselves to feel ashamed, or they assume people view them as *foolish*. This again is a place where we have the choice to allow ourselves to live and to not be concerned with the judgments or opinions of others. 6. Fear of Being Alone/Abandoned.For many, the fear of being alone keeps them in relationships (personal and business) even though they are abused and miserable. Others fear speaking their true feelings for fear their friends, colleagues, or loved ones will turn away from them or abandon them. Realize that we are never really alone, and that if people reject us or leave us because we are honest about our feelings, we are better off without those people in our life. There will always be new friends, new colleagues, and new projects we can become involved with which will keep us connected to others and we need not ever feel alone. As one builds a strong sense of their self worth and what they have to offer the world, the fear of being alone fades. 7. Fear of Rejection.When we take a social or professional risk, there is usually the potential that what we say or the ideas we present might be rejected or not accepted as we had hoped. And so? The rejection of an idea or even the rejection of us personally does not mean we are not worthy, talented in our work, or otherwise desirable. It means a person or group of people views something(s) differently than we do. Period. So rather than take it *to the heart* and feel like we are a leper who has been shunned, or an idiot whose ideas are all bad, it is productive to view it as a single incident where what we had to offer was not compatible with what others were wanting, and move on. We have a lot of other people to meet and who will accept us freely, and we also have many others who might *like* our idea that someone else rejected. We need to move on, not take it as a personal attack, and keep being ourselves and create what we know to be positive work and social contributions. 8. Fear of Expressing Our True Feelings.Lack of good, clear, honest communication has ruined more than one relationship, business or business transaction. It is vital, if we are to be successful in our life, to be able and willing to express our true and honest feelings to our loved ones, our colleagues, our adversaries, and even to ourselves. If we do not know how we feel, we need to take time to discover that. If we need help, we need to ask for help. Honest, open communication, delivered in a non-abusive non- violent manner, is a learned habit. Once learned, it is much easier to do, and practiced regularly, it does more to enrich and keep our lives in balance than almost any other thing we can do. 9. Fear of Intimacy.While many think of intimacy as strictly having sexual connotations, it encompasses much more. It is actually the highest and best form of being and communicating with other people (or another person). Most importantly, true intimacy is made up of unconditional love for the people with whom we share it. Unconditional love is not easy for many to learn and master, but it is essential if one wants to learn to be a tolerant, non-judgmental person who respects both the needs and the wants of the other people in their life. 10. Fear of The *Unknown*Life is full of unknowns. The best any of us can do is to know what our values and needs and standards are, and use that to determine what we are willing to spend our time and money on throughout our life. This includes some risks, but so does driving a car, crossing the street, or playing any sport. If we stay in the present moment time frame, we will not allow the fears of anything that happened or that we heard from the past to influence us. If we do not allow ourselves to think into the future and worry or "what if," we will not allow ourselves to incorporate any needless anticipatory and totally speculative anxieties into our mind. The unknown can be exciting and vast in a very positive way, especially if we use our common sense, our intuition and heart-felt feelings, and our values and standards *barometer* to guide us from moment to moment, day to day, and project to project. More often than not, that which we fear *might* happen never does, and if so, we are much more prepared for it than we imagined we would be when we were worrying.About the Submitter: This piece was originally submitted by Dennis R. Tesdell, author of Self Care Weekly, a weekly email newsletter, plus numerous other articles on personal growth, self care, and life balance, Personal Development & Self-Care Coach, who can be reached at life coach@coachdt.com, or visited on the web. Dennis R. Tesdell wants you to know: I am affiliated with Coach University and a member of the International Coach Federation. I write a weekly newsletter on selfcare, teach teleclass workshops on the topic, and specialize in working with individuals who need more balance, self care, reserve and control over their business and personal life.
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